Conformity

I love to educate. And I love to be in a place where I can utilize my skills with people particularly with young people. You just have no idea how much of an impact you have on little minds, and even some adults. What gets me, is as adults we still want other people to conform to our way of thinking and living, and if we do not then we are wrong in our own values.

 I say this to say that I am in a dilemma. I educate young minds and in my new class this year I have several parents that are homosexual couples both male and female. I cannot judge that, only God, so I do what I normally do: smile, greet them and the child, hold conversations about their day, I’m always nice, courteous and all the above. But one day as I was sending a video home to the families of the class, I used the words MOM and DAD. For example, I would say in the video “Hello MOM and DAD” and so forth. I didn’t think this was a problem until the second time a video was sent and my director came to me and said that she could not send the video because I did not include everybody. I didn’t understand, and she explain to me that the first time I sent out the video the homosexual parents were upset that I used the words MOM and DAD.  They did not like those words because it did not include them and to just say PARENTS. I could not believe what I was hearing! Once again someone has to conform to a lifestyle to make someone else comfortable. So, I’m thinking to myself, then what about the MOMS and DADS that ARE MOMS and DADS. Do we just forget about them because two or three couples got their feelings hurt over a choice they made? (And yes, I do believe that homosexuality is a choice) When they enter the class, I don’t even know what to call them because I cannot say HELLO DAD, or HEY MOM, so I’m stuck, I look unprofessional and like a deer caught in headlights.  Forgive me but I do not understand why it is that we always have to conform to what these couple want us to do. I cannot go around saying I’m a woman and if you don’t do this or that then your sexist, and you hate women, NO! As we teach our young minds “You get what you get and you don’t throw a fit”! Why make a fuss over something so trivial?  I could use first or last name when referring to them but the children are calmer by the first method of saying MOM and DAD. 

This is the first time that I have encountered something like this. I don’t know if I’m being to sensitive or if they are. But what I do know is that this has caused an uncomfortable feeling when I’m around them because I do not know what they will nitpick with me on next.

 I think that we have to take baby step with this thing and not be overbearing in our values and methods. People would be more open and accepting if you didn’t push an agenda down a person’s throat and called it change. This is nothing like civil rights or women’s rights. This is a do what I say and what I want you to do type of deal. But until we all can have a conversation about the fairness of the homosexual agenda, without people thinking that you fear them or hate them, we wont get very far and most of us will still be stuck and left like me…confused…GO FIGURE!

City Girls

Ok so this one really got to me. Have you ever loved a song because of the beat but then when you really sit back and listen to the lyrics of the song, you’re like WTF! These songs these days hold no merit to the great songs of old. These songs these days teaches us how to “get money” get shot” or take a charge” … REALLY?!!!  I do not understand how we allow our children to listen to half the songs that’s syndicated, and I’m guilty. Now when I hear lyrics that are inappropriate for my six-year-old, I change the station. I then ask “What is this song talking about”, like I don’t know, and to my happiness he doesn’t know, or understand, “The beat is just nice” he says.

I wrote a post on social media not to long ago about my family and I going swimming, just wanting some family time. There were a group of girls who were minding their own business, until my husband showed up that is. One girl was more than happy to give my husband a twerk fest show in her thong bikini not even caring that my young son was there. The sun was hot, and they were playing their music loudly and drinking by the pool. Then a song came on by the City Girls, and they just went into a frenzy. They were talking loudly about who they would like to have in bed. Which person would be better, and who had the most money? I could not believe what I was hearing! These girls looked beautiful and educated and I know they were just having a good time but I thought what are we teaching our girls to look forward too in the future, in a man-a husband, and as a women period? The lyrics to the City Girls song is nothing to be proud of if you are teaching your young daughter how to become a lady.

And what of our young men? Are you the man just because you have money, but you’re a jerk to other people? You have the “baddest chic” by your side but don’t know how to treat her. What actually are we teaching our children to look up to? The elders are gone or are too less respected in this society. We are told if we don’t make a certain amount of money, we are nothing, if we don’t live in the biggest house, we are nothing, if our breast are not perky enough, stomachs flat as a washboard, and our back side bigger than the Washington Monument we are nothing.  Boys are told if they don’t have the baddest car they are nothing, if the money is not piling up, they are nothing. If they do not have more than one baby  momma, they are nothing. This is wrong! Society has it wrong! WE need to teach our girls to look forward to having a husband and being his helpmate. The boys learning how to treat a lady properly and provide for his family the right way.

                          “Same group of bi#@$, ain’t no adding to the picture
                          Drop a couple racks, watch this ass get bigger
                          Drinkin’ on liquor, and I’m lookin’ at your ni&^&
                          If his money right, he can eat it like a Snicker”

                          “ If your ass a broke ni&^&, hell nah, I can’t meet ya
                            If your ass a rich ni&^&, I’ma f*&$% ya ’til you ain’t one”

We need to teach our young ladies that our bodies are not for sale. We do not get what we want by giving our precious bodies away to any man willing to pay, the highest bidder.  And even our boys, if she is willing to sell something so precious, she is not worth it, and don’t encourage it. It’s time to celebrate our children and let them know that they have so much to offer and to look forward too. NO more bad bi$^% and bad ni&^& but educated Kings and Queens.

P.S. No shade to the city girls… they are making their money by rapping…Go FIGURE!